Holidays and Divorce: Making Them Merry and Bright School is in full swing, hurricane season is almost over, and it is time to start thinking about the fall and winter holidays.  You will likely be very busy with school and extra-curricular activities and the last thing on your mind will be planning holiday celebrations and holiday timesharing with your ex. It is possible to have enjoyable holidays during and after your divorce.  The first step is to take a deep breath and realize that your holiday celebrations will be forever changed by your divorce and the only thing you can…

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HOW TO MAKE YOUR CHILDREN’S LIVES BETTER AS A CO-PARENT The divorce is finalized.  You and your former spouse have split all of the assets.  You each have moved into your own home.  The dust has settled and life is moving forward.  You now have a new family unit, one in which you and your former spouse share time with the children, and still see each other at extra-curricular activities, religious events and at other activities involving your children, but you don’t reside together and maybe you or your former spouse is living with or spending significant time with someone…

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Yes, amicable divorce is possible despite America’s fascination with the knock-down drag-out divorce.  We have all seen War of the Roses with Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner – a movie detailing a well-off and seeming happy couple’s marital relationship fall apart, and how they turn their energy towards a bitter fight over their material possessions. Fortunately, most divorces do not end in the war of the roses.  In fact, most couples genuinely want to retain a good relationship with their soon to be ex-spouse for a number of reasons including to promote healthy and active co-parenting, to maintain peace for…

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You just spoke to your son or daughter and found out that he/she is getting a divorce.  You are concerned, distressed and worried their spouse will not let you see your grandchildren.  This is a common scenario.  Divorces where a grandparent was highly involved with the grandchildren, even acting as caregivers, can be challenging to navigate, especially when all adults involved want to control who sees the children and when. If you are a grandparent that was providing daycare or after care for your grandchildren, you may be worried you will not be able to continue caring for your grandchildren. …

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Litigating child custody issues such as a relocation is expensive and stressful.  A relocation is where one parent seeks to relocate with the children out of the 50 mile radius of where he/she currently resides.  So, what happens if your ex-spouse asks you to permit them to relocate with the children or you are served with a Petition for Relocation? Before you do anything, you should immediately consult with a family law attorney that specializes in relocation litigation.   That attorney should be able to guide you on how to respond in accordance with how you wish to proceed. You should…

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MANAGING YOUR STRESS DURING THE DIVORCE PROCESS The unimaginable has happened.  You and your spouse have filed for a divorce and now you are adrift on a sea of emotions trying to manage your stress during divorce.  One minute you feel sad and upset, the next angry and indignant.  Some days you can barely get out of bed and others you seem to have the energy of a toddler. Stress During Divorce – What is going on? During your divorce, 90% of your energy will be devoted to your emotions.  This makes it very difficult to address the many other…

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WHY SUMMER IS THE BEST TIME TO TALK TO YOUR FAMILY ABOUT DIVORCE Normally summer is the time when the divorce industry slows and practically screeches to a halt.  Attorneys and judges plan longer vacations during the summer because as a rule, most families contemplating a divorce tend to put things on hold during the summer while the children are around and not occupied with their regular activities and lives.  At first glance, this seems like a smart idea.  But when a little more thought is put into it – summer is the perfect time to address divorce issues with…

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Getting ahold of your finances during divorce. Now that you and your spouse have decided that you are getting a divorce, your next decision should be how to handle the finances not only during the divorce, but after.  This can be a difficult and daunting task, especially if you are the spouse that did not pay the bills or handle the money in your marriage.  If you are the spouse that paid bills and handled the money issues, this concept can cause you stress as well.  You are looking at the family finances and wondering how you can support two…

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Many families have a beloved pet living in their home.  So, what happens to your pet in the event that you and your spouse divorce? Florida law is very clear: pets are like furnishings and are given to one spouse in the divorce settlement.  In many jurisdictions in Florida, local rules are enacted which prevent judges from distributing assets such as furniture or furnishings with a value of less than $2,000.00. What does this mean for your pet?  It means that you and your spouse need to decide who keeps your pet.  Unless your pet is worth more than $2,000.00,…

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